I.. hate being in second place… to my sister…. even though I was born first…. no one ever ask me about me… they always say “oh your _____’s sister” ….. or I magically become the b*** of people’s jokes… all because I am not like her…
I.. hate being in second place… to my sister…. even though I was born first…. no one ever ask me about me… they always say “oh your _____’s sister” ….. or I magically become the b*** of people’s jokes… all because I am not like her…
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Comparison is the best way to destroy children. My opinion based on my own experience.
For years I put up with that stuff, and eventually it lead to basically a nervous breakdown for me. My confidence was rock bottom. I second guessed everything I did. I questioned my own thoughts. I always put myself down. I didn’t believe praise that I got.
Please, don’t let this happen to you. Family is important, so I’m not saying hate on your family, but you have to be in an environment without your sister there so you can be in the sunlight and not constantly in her shadow.
You need to find people who truly value and like YOU, and treasure those people.
What you’re feeling is natural, don’t worry. You’re not a bad person. I understand it feels horrible to resent a family member.
By finding your own crowd and your own friends and having circles that are separate to your sisters, you can hopefully find value in yourself, as well as being able to appreciate your sister without the need for comparison.
Best of luck.