I found the perfect man…who happens to live in another state for a year.
We are dating…supposed to be dating exclusively.
Problem is I’ve hit a financially rough (literally broke) patch and have opted to provide services for money…this has funded out trips to see one another, as well as paid my own bills to live. I don’t enjoy it, and only do it for money…and think about him each time it happens…he would of course break up with me if he found out. This is only temporary until I find a job with more hours (trust me, for moths I’ve made attempts and sent out applications).
My guilt does not solely stem from this taboo line of work, but from TRULY emotionally cheating on him last night with my ex. I cried so much because I could’ve prevented it, and there was nothing I took from that encounter that would benefit my relationship. I feel disgusting and ashamed…
It’s a terrible position I’ve put myself in, and no one knows the details but myself…
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you hook?
You are a terrible person. I have kids to support and I still haven’t resorted to hooking. I just sell things online and crawl through garbage cans until I can find a better income. Hooking is the easy way out. You could have even told him that you hit it rough financially and had faith in your relationship that it would last through that. Anyways…tell him you hook so he doesn’t have to get some disease from you, break up, move on, and in six months get tested. You have to wait six months because you can still get a false negative on HIV if you don’t. Then try again somewhere else; you can’t cry over milk that has spilled. Good luck.
Well, the fact of the matter is I don’t have kids to support. It is only myself. This would be out of the question if I was a parent. Not to say it’s acceptable…
Yes, continue to tell me I’m a terrible person. It’s not like I haven’t made effort to find work elsewhere. I am an educated young female, who has just been accepted into an internship program and is transferring to a private university through merit-based scholarships. I have applied for numerous positions (hourly pay, I don’t care) and nothing has come from it.
Contributing factors (NOT EXCUSES) include 3 deaths in my family within the past two months, in addition to not being able to support myself. My parents both lost long-time jobs within the past 6 months and both were in car accidents that totaled both their cars. I haven’t been doing this for years…my relationship is relatively new (3 months). I met him locally and he is completing his PhD program in a neighboring state. I have never cheated prior to this current situation. What’s sad is he is the first guy upon meeting I knew would be something long-lasting…he is perfect in my eyes. I suppose desperation causes people to make the poorest unfathomable decisions.
I agree, hooking is indeed the easy way out. Yet when I was single, I would go out on dates with people and do the same thing, except now I am getting paid. Sadly true, my body is no longer my temple. I have no interest in establishing any type of relationship or feelings for these people. I chose to engage in this activity temporarily and that is a fact.
I am not asking for pity or sympathy. I understand right from wrong and clearly used poor judgement. Alas, I needed to get this off my chest because as previously stated no one knows this but myself.
You still need to tell him so he doesn’t contract an infection. Men that visit hookers are more likely to be infected with something because the sex is a sure thing. Whereas a man who is just looking to get laid on dates and in bars is less likely because the sex is few and far between. A majority of hookers have some sort of infection but less than 50% of promiscuous women are infected with something. I know you made a mistake; that is why I say move on, get tested, and don’t cry over spilled milk. I am sorry I said you are a terrible person, but you must stop and get tested no matter what credentials you boast.
I’m not boasting about any credentials! I’m just trying to state that I’m not some lazy girl who has always been a slut who never tried.
I was just tested two weeks ago, and will get tested for that later on as well…thanks.
You are being incredibly unfair to him. If you don’t treat others the way you want them to treat you, sooner or later they’ll give you a taste of your own medicine. If you truly love him, treat him the way he deserves.