I finally told my boyfriend(of 5-6years) that I was upset that he cheated on me. I finally asked him what he did, how he did it, where, and when. I didn’t let any details slip through the crack because for me, I need to know everything before I know how to respond. Otherwise, I’ll just be confused. He told me everything I asked through hysterical weeps, and I just giggled. I actually giggled. I must be insane.
You’d think hearing things like that would make your blood boil, but I just sat there and listened until he was finished. Thought about it for a while, and laughed. Laughed because I felt I was officially learning my place. I am now, and always will be number 2. I have never been in a relationship where I have not been cheated on. I am never good enough or in general just not ‘enough’ for someone. Guys get tired and end up wanting something else. Always. Like I said it’s like i’m just never enough..
I have a tone body, I work a job while he plays at home, I cook dinner after coming home from work, I clean the whole house before we go to sleep, I buy gifts at any spare change I have for you, i’ll watch you play games to spend time with you, I invite you to shower with me and scrub your back, I rub your tummy when you have a stomach ache, and tend to you when you’re sick. I tell you I love you each and every day and hold you tightly before leaving in the mornings because I don’t ever want us to have a day where we left angry at each other and have something happen. Regardless of all I do, he said he did it because she was easy and let him. I’m guessing it must have been easy for him to just forget about me and all I do for us too then… He cheated on his last girlfriend, what makes me any different. Now when I think about that though I just say to him, forget about it.. It’s in the past and that’s not you anymore.
I was and still am trying so hard to do it all for you, for us. No matter how hard I try, or how much I give, or how perfect of a girlfriend I may try to be, I’ll always have to remember that I am no one’s number one. I will always be, number 2.
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…I know exactly how you feel. Down to every word. My partner of three years cheated on me several times. And I wanted to know everything. And they only reason they were still with me, is because in the end, they chose somebody else. And now I told my partner I forgive them. But I don’t. I never will. I feel no sexual desire for them. But I still love them and I am still with them. I’m trying to make something change, but I don’t know what. I will always be number 2.
Im never anybodies option. No one wants me in anyway whether it be sexual, romantic or friendly.i never was , im not and never will be someones option. Im sorry to hear that he dont appreciate u. I hope everything works out for u
u seem like a wonderful person. Same with commenter #1
not all guys are cheaters. just the ones girls seem to want.
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you don´t have to be someone elses number one. but you have to be your own number one! and from the moment on you started accepting these hurtfull feelings in your life, you´ve put yourself in your own second place.
if his actions hurt you so much, tell him and most importantly – do something against it. leave him, do something for your own well being. terminate the sources of bad feelings and search for new sources of happyness and good feelings.
nobody is going to stand in for you, if you don´t do it yourself! Be proud of who you are and show it to yourself. you are worth it. and if someone doesn´t agree to that, don´t keep him in your life.