I have a 12-year-old step-daughter. My husband doesn’t know this but I really don’t like her. I came into my husband’s life when she was 3. She had always been a very angry, negative, “dark” soul. At the age of 3 she used to slam her head into people’s faces until they bleed and is and always has always been in trouble. I’ve tried so hard over the past 9 years to warm up to her, get to know her, and do my best to care for her. I do take care of her, buy her clothes, cook her meals, and generally be a step-mom to her. Our relationship is very “surface only”. I’ve always been kind to her and patient, but deep down I feel numb towards her. I have tried to get her to do things with me, arts and crafts, but she won’t interact with many people. I’ve gotten to a point where when she turns 18 I won’t feel any loss of love if I never see her again. I’ve tried and I just don’t feel attached to her. I should feel something for her being I’ve been around her sicnr age 3 but I don’t. I feel incredibly guilty and sad that I feel this way. My husband has no idea and it would break his heart and probably our marriage if he knew.