My brother obviously loves and accepts me as his sister, but he has acted like a guardian rather than a best friend. That was fine by me, he seemed comfortable like that. But up until recently, he has been more and more affectionate towards me. At first I didn’t think much of it, until he started acting more affectionate, too affectionate. I always shrugged it off because I really want to belive he’s a good person. But today he lifted me up, trying to ‘play’. I was having fun until I noticed his erection. I felt… uncomfortable. I felt weird. I don’t know what to say or how to feel… I’ve been a victim of s***** harassment before, and perhaps that experience has made me paranoid toward what is happening right now..? He hasn’t done anything to me so far, so maybe I’m exaggerating? Please help.
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You should tell someone about that just in case. You should also tell him about it, and tell him about how weird and uncomfortable it was.
Distance yourself. You have a very valid reason. Don’t have a conversation with him about it or anyone else. Just stay away from him before something happens that you can never take back. Gross.
As a dude, he knew that boner was there. That was not an “oops”. Also as a dude, you need to be extremely clear and terse that you are not comfortable with that. Hormones are confusing and dudes will push whatever weird ass boundaries until they realize it is going to cause a serious problem, then they’ll feel bad and realize they’re being horrible AF. He’s probably not an awful person just got lots of..feelings. If you shut it down hard he’ll let it go. But you gotta be like “hey that shit is NOT COOL if you EVER do that shit again I’ll tell MOM” or equivalent.
also I’m sorry and that’s shitty you have to deal with that.