I confess. I am usually very loving to my partner but when I am upset I spew hateful, mean things about his many, many faults. It is like Tourette’s or diarrhea of the mouth. I do this because I want him to love me back as much as I love him. I am a perfectionist about many things in life and I don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to be too because it makes life so much easier and is freeing. It lets you focus on important things like loving others the way they should be loved except for this very serious flaw. My therapist will not help me with this defect because he is a man and he doesn’t understand why I want this flawed man since I have literally passed on gorgeous, pure, upstanding-citizen, type men. I am shunning the exact way my therapist tries to live his life so it is personal to him that I do not stay with this flawed man. I will not get a different therapist because I trust him so much and I don’t know what to do.