I’m in a committed relationship over nine years. I’m emotionally connected to this person beyond words. The physical attraction has flamed out completely. I get excited to be around her and cuddling is the highlight of my night or day (we don’t see each other much because of work), but when it comes to s**, I just find myself completely uninterested. I’m painfully bored with it and she’s against spicing things up. We’ve even talked about this in the past because we’ll go a week or two without s**. It won’t bother me but it bothers her. I do it just often enough with her to keep her happy, even after each time we do have s** she says that we should do this every night. I’m in my mid 20s, so I’ve been with her most of my life so I can’t function without her emotionally, but I no longer have any s***** attraction to this woman anymore.