No…. I do believe both are at fault, but in the eNd we have only ourselves to blame for not recognizing that the situation, the person the relationship was wrong for us, which ended up screwing us over in one way or another. Sometimes we can blame ourselves for being sharp as not ugh to see it and know it was not going to work, it was not good for us but it print those instincts, then getting screwed over royally. People are people, and people do not ever change. You need to be able to see the person for what they are immediately, and recognize what kind of a problem they will be for you and have the nuts to leave it where it is and forget about it. OR be an indiscriminate idiot, go along with it and get your mental a** handed to you every which way but Sunday. Just remember… It’s your fault.