over the christmas break I confessed to my work lover’s wife that we are in a s***** relationship. It is no longer just s**, I have developed deep feelings for him and he has developed feelings for me. I do not want him to divorce his wife, I told her that. I would like to work out an arrangement, one in which we can openly share him as a husband. I have researched and know that there are many such arrangements where a man has two women simultaneously and I am open to that. We don’t have to live together but that is preferable, we need to develope feeling for eachother as cowives and share in the love, rewards and burdens of being in a this relationship. As it is, we are already in that relationship except it has been behind her back.