To: Married and I guess I am stuck. I am stick feeling like I am never good enough.
Me: you are only married for as long as you want to be.
Why are you still there? Is it the money, the property, the kids, the things you enjoy in that relationship you would have to work for, to get it all again and you probably won’t?
If your answer to all of these things is “No”, then you have no reason to stay, unless you are in a relationship with a manipulator and you are scared for your life, when you should get the police to intercede and get out of there with a whole skin and don’t ever go back.
If you are a Gunner. Gunner do this, gunner do that, but do nothing, that is down to you and it has nothing to do with your partner, or your relationship, but with you and your inability to make change, to better yourself, for whatever reason.
We only have one life. We don’t live forever. It is soon over and it is too late to wish you had done something else, when your life is “All Over Red Rover”.
Sometimes, the best way to reactivate a relationship is to cheat and have a secret bit on the side, that way you get your cake and eat it, sort of thing and you don’t lose any of your comforts in the process.