I want my boyfriend’s attention and I keep telling him that I need him to talk and interact better but it seems like it just keeps happening.
Today/ this day of the week is the only day off I have away from my school work and my abusive mother and we scheduled a call/hangout (we are long distance)the day before. So today one of the first things he says is that he invited his twin brother over to his house to hang out because their dad wanted time alone and I got bummed because we had already set aside time for today and he immediately ruined it, so I said I could just not call and he could focus on the people around him and not be distracted with me on his plate too but he said that I could go ahead and call/ see where that goes and I again brought up possibly being a distraction and he assured me I wouldn’t be.
So I got in the call with him and we didn’t do anything, I offered a to play a few games/ things we could do together and he ignored all. of. them. and turning off his laptop to save his battery so he could play with his brother instead. I said okay that’s fine and after a tiny bit of talking he decided he would read a book instead of talking to me. his girlfriend. who called specifically to talk with him and spend time. so I switched from game to game trying to enjoy/distract myself but with each game my mood has gotten worse and FINALLY I hop on our minecraft realms and so does he but he doesn’t want to do anything and I (already not in a good mood anymore)died several times and once while waiting for him to teleport to me because I found something he was interested in and then he got off to update his laptop. So now he’s off doing something else, we aren’t talking, we’re still in a call , I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to start a fight/ argument and I just want his g******* attention. I’ve brought this problem up before and we’ve talked but I don’t know what to do now about this b*******.
Helpful and serious advice please. I also don’t wanna hear “long distance relationships never work blah blah blah” I’ve seen them do great so keep that s*** to yourself.
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my friend is in this exact situation, except on your boyfriend’s side
it’s killing him. every time he’s chewed out for not giving enough attention, quitting calls early, doing something else, anything, it really breaks him.
i can’t and obviously won’t say your boyfriend is the same, but sometimes, you gotta understand that space is just.. space. it grows, it’s inevitable, and avoiding it eventually leads to something worse.
i’ve been in your spot, too. i tried so hard to keep things going – to keep the attention and connection – but it ultimately broke us apart. the best advice i’ve got is:
– break up (or rather, acknowledge the possibility of it)
– consider taking a ‘break’ (^)
– communicate
– compromise
– set boundaries
– focus more on.. something else (family, friends, school, work, hobbies, exercising, anything that’s healthy and you can put time into)
Catfish?