Hey guys, I’m a university student and I desperately want to be in a permanent relationship. I know as a guy that seems weird, and I know I’m young and I have more ahead of me, but I can’t help but think that every time I talk to a girl, she could be the one. Am I the only one who thinks like this? I know it may sound dumb, but it’s something I can’t get out of my head. It’s probably not what I need right now, but it’s how I feel. Tell me what you think.
-Volodya
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You sound like a hopeless romantic. It’s so endearing! I don’t think it’s weird for a guy to want to meet “the one” and stay with them permanently. But I understand where you’re coming from. Not everyone is looking for the love of their life, especially in university. Just a lot of experimenting. I’m sure the perfect girl for you is out there. Don’t give up!!! And if you’re interested in knowing more about yourself, try this awesome personality test! I found out alot about my strengths and weaknesses with this site. Maybe you can charm your way into someone’s heart. Good luck!!!
-Dawn
https://www.16personalities.com/
Aww the link won’t show up… Typing up 16personalities into Google should work!
-Dawn
Heh, yeah, I’m definitely a hopeless romantic. I really hope she’s out there, and that I find her soon. Thank you so much for your encouraging words and the link, I’ll surely take the test!
-Volodya
No, you’re not the only one who thinks this way. When I had my first girlfriend back in High school I thought she was the one, but people change a lot in 4 years.
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I’ll admit and agree with the other guy, you do sound like a hopeless romantic. Not the there’s anything wrong with it, but it could potentially drive you crazy from stress if you keep going like this.
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Take your time, you’re in university. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you, slow down and take a step back. See the world for what it is and consider who you want to marry before you marry someone you’ll end up regretting in the future.
Yeah, I understand, I know I have more ahead of me and that I’m young, it just gets hard sometimes. I’m going to try mediation so I can have a better grip on my emotions. Thank you so much for your help. 🙂
-Volodya
I (M) was the same when I was in college. When I finally started getting laid more often, that changed. I wasn’t looking for a long-term relationship as strongly. And that got me laid even more. So, find a connection and roll with it. Don’t get emotionally connected; do whatever you can to find that “one-night-stand” mentality. The easiest way is to have that conversation with that person before AND after you have sex. You’ll find yourself relaxed after that.