I just want him to notice that I’m hurting without me having to spell it out for him like a 4 year old. How can you not see that I’m hurt by your actions? I am so different from when I’m happy to when I’m upset like this. How can he not see. Why do I have to always initiate him being able to open his eyes and see that I’m upset when I’m literally right there next to him. How can he look right at me, see that I’m isolating and have tears in my eyes, and not connect that I’m hurt??? I don’t understand. I don’t know how much more obvious I can be. And yes, I’m aware that communication is healthiest and I should just go to him and talk to him when I’m upset, and not just “expect him to notice”, but god dammit if I don’t just want him to, once. For ONCE I want him to say “hey, what’s wrong? Talk to me, what’s the matter?’ rather than me having to go to him and say “hey, sorry this is somehow literally out of nowhere for you because you somehow didn’t know I’m upset, but here’s the issue:____”. Especially because it’s like he somehow doesn’t even know how to comfort me….. I’ve been with him for 2 years, how can he not know that I just want to be held and rocked a little while being told it’s all alright? I have to ask him everytime if he’ll do that for me after every long emotional brick-wall conversation with him; it makes it not feel as comforting. (Not to mention it always feels like he’d rather be anywhere else..) I don’t want to have to ask to be soothed for once.