I have a boyfriend of 3 months and he is one of the most sweetest guys that I know. Last year I had just gone out of a toxic relationship, my ex was also best friends with my current boyfriend (well not as best friends but they were close) because of this I had a huge guilt down my throat and it’s surprising how a close friend of mine had something with my current boyfriend. They were not really dating but my friend had a few crushes on him (my boyfriend) So what happened was there was conflict between my bf and my friend, because she had been thinking of ghosting him while he didn’t know what he did wrong to her and this was before I was dating him. I became the middle person for both of them cause I genuinely wanted to help out but they both ended. All in all my bf felt it as his first breakup ever because he had been crushing on her for so long. Ever since then I became good friends with him, I was still in a relationship during this time. About my ex, I had been dating him for a year but I just couldn’t take it anymore because I was constantly getting emotionally abused by him I always felt insecure like I was not good enough for him and he would always get violent and it hurt me. The last thing I wanted in a guy was anger issues, I’ve dealt with manipulation and all the lies. It was even harder during the breakup he was so possesive and it became a huge deal with all our closest friends. My ex would literally throw me under the bus, he told really false statements about me and it really effected me as if I was the bad guy in the relationship. Also around this time my bf to be has been there for me. Ever since the breakup he would always check up on me and honestly I’ve never felt being treated this way. We became really good friends even closer, it was as if he was returning a favour when I helped him through his breakup. After months of talking to him, I had a teeny crush on him but I didn’t want to think much of it because the thing about dating someone who was once close to your friend was a no no for me. But lastly he ended up liking me too.. because we hit it off like really well. We have the same vibe, same interests, we could always relate with each other. He’s boyfriend material because I would have love if we dated cause we click but at the same time I have guilt in me.. I don’t know if it’s right or wrong. My bf at that time confessed that he would want to keep me and love me, he also stated that he didn’t want me getting treated bad like in my previous relationship cause I deserved better and he wanted to give that to me. I felt so touched and appreciated, and it’s also the first time someone liked me this way even for my ex, it was me who had a crush on my ex and I wanted to be in a relationship with him. We ended up dating (current bf) and I swear he’s so gentle and sensitive, we don’t ever argue on the littlest things. We would always talk and communicate and I genuinely feel like I’ve met my soulmate because he’s all I’ve ever wanted. We both had broken relationships before and we realised that we were both perfect for each other. We kept our relationship as a secret because well some of my friends didn’t like the idea of me being with him and when I wanted reasons, they were all stupid like they didn’t like him because he was quiet and awkward? I just couldn’t believe they were being so childish he never really done any bad things or wrong others. He’s just someone quiet, reserved and really socially awkward but I helped him through that too. He’s just really sweet but it’s hard for him to show that and I get that, and it’s also what I like about him. I just don’t know what to do because some of them don’t like us together whilst his friends was okay with it they were even supporting us being together. It’s sad that even my own friends wouldn’t approve because I’ve never felt happier being with someone. I’m still working things out with my boyfriend, and it’s a hustle keeping our relationship a secret cause I’m scared I’ll be getting backlash for dating my ex’s best friend. And that might be all, I still do have mixed feelings about all this but I hope it goes well. Wish me luck…!