I hacked my ex-girlfriend’s email and Facebook, shared her elicit photos she had saved online around to co-workers and even future employers, and tried to get her fired from a job where we both worked. Here’s why –
We saw one another at work nearly every day. After I broke things off there was definite animosity while at work. I began to hear back from secondary sources that she was s***-talking me to others. I started to notice that I was having fewer interactions with others at work, either outright or very short dialog. It was reputation destruction I found out later from other employees. In frustration, I shamefully began to do the same thing when the topic of our breakup came up in conversation with other employees. What proceeded over the next several months was a t** of tat-type character assassination for the whole office to see. Snide or embarrassing comments in department-wide chats, false reports about safety violations, or false harassment claims. I ended up crossing a personal line regarding reporting something I knew could get her fired. When I went to management they asked me to essentially not proceed.
*Side Note – My ex was known for being hot-headed with the potential for being volatile. She had negative interactions with 4 other people on our project who all were later “moved” to other projects or kicked out completely after she reported them to HR.
My managers at that point must have known how this was going to go if I proceeded to HR… which I did. There was an investigation and in the midst of it I received an email from the same manager “asking” if I wanted to move elsewhere with the company… OUT OF STATE! I declined, the investigation on what I reported was wrapped up and I was told to give her space and she was told that if she felt harassed to report the activity to HR… I was livid as what was reported was not just a disqualifier for her job but a federal crime! It was clear that there was a bias in gender dynamics from management and it wasn’t in MY favor.
I took a job with another company and left (something I should have done months prior.)

A week after I left, I realized her email and Facebook passwords were saved on an old laptop I had when we were together… Over several days, I read through some very nasty emails/Facebook messages she had written to coworkers and management about me. Some were idle frustration but a few were attempts at major defamation and getting me fired. In my anger, I noticed a folder she had online with elicit photos and decided to share it with some coworkers, management at our old company, and even a new company she was looking at getting a new job with.

This would have to be one of the darkest things I’ve ever done to another person and it HAUNTS me to this day. The dissonance I feel about doing this, despite having been steeped in a highly exhausting & toxic environment for months, is like cancer in my bones.
-I’VE TOLD NO ONE!