To open my wife and I have evolved into a s****** type relationship. That worked fine while she was a alcoholic and prior to her going through the change. Now she is sober and has little interest. I have a long term gf whom I have grown to love and I/we also hit swing parties on occasion. So my bigger problems are with my gf as the wife does not ask or seem to care. Love them both for different reasons. I hurt the gf today and had relations with a random girl. Honestly thought i mentioned the potential but could have confirmed so its my fault. I did offer up details to the gf after the fact assuming she knew what i was doing but was wrong. I am 50, equate my s******** with my manhood, and keep making poor choices. Suggestions for gf since she means so much to me and I do love her. I did do wrong as i thought she knew what I was up to but was wrong. Wish I could explain more but I am honest and try. Gf in a bad relationship with young kids so she is not going any where soon. My kids grown and i am dealing with misc. but no majors. Ideally we would both split and get together but timing is still tough. So we are floating on hope but still have needs.
