Thanksgiving teenage pregnancy confession : Well at least you didn’t get your girlfriends daughter pregnant !
So I just started dating an old flame of mine from high school after her husband died in a drunk driving accident in September – I was friends with him and we often ran into each other In bars – he was an alcoholic
My first wife divorced me back in 2013 because she couldn’t take my constant heavy drinking and chain smoking – I also had two DWIs and totaled two cars while driving drunk, and was sent to the ER another time with alcohol poisoning- she was furious when she found out I had been f****** around with some girls at a batchelorette party
Anyways so me and the old flame have been seeing one another right after her husband died in September- – we are both 38
We actually went to elementary school, middle school and high school together and no s*** I had a crush on her from 3rd grade to 12 th grade –
Then she ran off and got married her freshman year of college when she got knocked up by some roughneck dude – her first husband – oh well
Things are going really well. She likes having a man around the house plus I have a job and give her money for stuff but I’m thinking: yeah I could do this a while – and she is always having me stay over and asking me to move in before Christmas
But man I just cannot keep my eyes off her teenage daughter
She’s 14 and just so short and stacked and really really good looking… like her mama was back when we were in high school
Truth is: I really badly want to f*** her 14 year old daughter-
But she always catches me eyeing her girl and tries to make me feel bad about it – like reminding me that’s I technically also have a 13 year old daughter I never see who lives in New York City
I never get to see my oldest daughter because she is up in NYC – she was an accident with an 18 year old college freshman girl when I was 25 in grad school and her mom is a total b**** who got sole custody bc she married a rich a** NYC lawyer – so I literally never see her and have to go on Facebook to see pics of her
My ex wife got custody of my other daughter, who’s 4 now almost 5, because My multiple drunk driving arrests made me an “unfit parent” … I never get to see her now either except on Facebook feeds – but the guilt for that one really hurts – I can’t believe they took her
f*** that noise. The judge Who sentenced me is a known drunk himself and I’ve seen him out at bars plastered -it’s such b*******
Everyone I know is a drunk and drinks everyday just like me
Anyways. So yesterday while my new old Flame is out Black Friday shopping all night with her sister – I stayed home and was watching the football games
And well.. being bad… I got drunk at thanksgiving as usual and afterwards I was being naughty…plying my old flames 14 year old giving her alcohol and cigarettes and telling her she shoots whisky just like her old man did – she was smiling all about that
I started telling her about how much I miss my 4 year old daughter and show her pictures – and she’s all “awww” and being all warm and cozy
I was telling her she’ll be a great mother and that she shouldnt wait until her thirties like me to have kids (I leave out the fact that I technically have a daughter almost her same age)
Anyways so we’re having a good time drinking and smoking and I’m feeling the vibe – like: hey man am i gonna get to hook up with this girl tonight or what
She’s all telling me how badly she wants to be a momma and how she has the baby fever
And I’m thinking “oh hell yes”
Then she took another shot and then she started crying
I was thrown off
Then out of the blue she confided in me that she missed her period
I’m surprised
She shows me a phone pic of two positive pregnancy tests
Then she started to cry because she said her boyfriend won’t return her text messages
I didn’t even know she had a boyfriend…
He was some weird hipster guy – he looked to be at least 30 years old in the picture she showed me – he played in a band at some hip Mexican taco joint and she met up with him last month after a show
Of course she’s not on birth control
Of course he didn’t use a condom
I’m shifted into full dad mode now
Now Im thinking holy f***
I ask if she’s told her mom yet – she said no
I’m thinking she needs to tell her
And also maybe she should not be drinking whisky and smoking cigarettes when she tells her – so I kindly poor her a glass of cranberry sprite on ice
She didn’t know what to do
She showed me the text messages with the 30something year old bearded hipster a******
This dude looks to be almost my age at least and she was just hooking up with him in October right after she met him
Of course it was her first time
Meanwhile He’s off on the road with his s***** band and doesn’t even live in town. He’s already headed out west to Texas
She was crying and putting her head on my shoulder
And I’d be lying if this cute little tipsy 14 year old girl crying on my shoulder didn’t give me a big old rubbery fat softie
I hugged her and held her and told her it would be ok – like a dad would
Then I told her we’d talk to her mom tomorrow when she’s gets back from Black Friday shopping with her sister
She’s still not sure if she wants to keep the baby or have an abortion
I just told her she’s be a great young mother and that I’m sure her mom and family will help her
I don’t want to push hard on the teenage abortion issue
But man this is now how I thought my thanksgiving was going to go
All Comments
Well look at that. Fate stepped in and gave you a much-needed dose of perspective, didn’t it? Almost sounds too good to be true… but I’ll choose to believe this might have happened.
It’s an absurd fiction that young women become sexually attractive the second they hit 18 and not a second before. We’re guys. We are going to notice how attractive they are. We just can’t talk about that honestly for a lot of reasons.
But there’s a huge difference between looking and touching. A world of difference between fantasy and reality. And really, man, at your age you’re planning to groom and fuck a 14-year-old? I’m not mad at your for noticing or even fantasizing, but that’s pretty “out there” behavior.
Methinks you need to start getting some help with your alcohol problem. It doesn’t seem to help you make good life decisions. And even if you’re not going to stick around with your old flame long-term, never forget this experience. Teenagers are not children, but they aren’t adults either, and they don’t need old guys like you and me perving on them.
Yeah I agree with the other commenter… Hard not to notice when a young woman is attractive, almost regardless of her age, but having sex or touching her is a completely different thing.
I’m a woman who, as I through many years of therapy came to find out, was groomed and raped as a 14-15 year old, by a man twice my age… At the time, it was completely consensual. I was all for it, the sex was great, he was very nice and respectful and thoughtful and all that… We were in a relationship for 6 wonderful years. (it finally ended over regular bullshit, he cheated). The encounter seemed normal to me at the time, but it fucked me up for so many years afterwards. My view of sex and especially of myself was damaged and altered, maybe forever.
A young teen may seem beautiful and mature and ready for it, but the thing about young teens is that they cannot, under any circumstance, give consent in the eyes of the law. I don’t necessarily think that the law reflects science or morality, but a young girl’s early sexual experiences should not involve men twice or three times her age. The power imbalance is sure to give her deep-seated issues for years to come.
So, again, I understand that it’s hard not to look when a pretty young girl is around, but touching her or having sex with her is absolutely not an option, unless you don’t care about potentially fucking up the rest of her life.
Wow these first two comments here have to be the most thoughtful and well written comments on here lately.
I cannot imagine saying anything better than they have said it