I’m not happy anymore in my relationship… I’ve been with this guy for over 4 years and I still love him, but I’m unhappy. We live together, we’ve talked about getting married on and off throughout the last year or so, and I really like his family. But I’m not attracted to him anymore and he pays more attention to his video games and other friends than he does to me. I try to talk to him about how I feel, but unless I say something that scares him into thinking we might break up, he doesn’t seem to care. He shuts down when I talk to him about things he doesn’t want to hear, and I can’t even believe him when he apologizes anymore because he says sorry all the time but nothing ever changes. It’s almost like it’s just an automatic response now to shut me up so he doesn’t have to deal with what I’m saying. On the rare occasions that something actually does get through to him, and he makes changes to make the relationship better, they last maybe a month or two before things are back to the way they were. I do love him, and I’d like to spend my life with him, but the relationship going in the direction I’d like it to. This has been going on for at least a year or two now. I feel trapped, like I’m suffocating. I feel like I’m settling…I don’t want to hurt him by telling him so, but sometimes I think I’d be ok without him. I don’t want to break up but if we can’t fix this then I’m not sure what to do…
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Don’t settle, love. Life should be lived, not born with a grudge.
Don’t settle, love. Live your life well. It may hurt you to hurt him, but in the long run, if you let him go and move on, you’ll be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I’m a damn sexy woman, and my partner loves me.” That’s what we all deserve. So seek it out!
Don’t settle, love. Live your life well. It may hurt you to hurt him, but in the long run, if you let him go and move on, you’ll be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I’m a damn sexy person, and my partner loves me.” That’s what we all deserve. So seek it out!
Leave. If you stay you will only allow the feeling to get worse and worse and worse and worse and it will be unbearable. You’ll feel shame and sadness and regret like you would not believe. Every day that goes by will only tighten the lock on the trap you’re in. Leave. Open up the door on both your lives. Trust me.
its really weird looking at this because its as if you’re describing my exact. same. situation. I relate to this so much. I love my boyfriend too its just. you said it perfectly he shuts off whenever I mention a breakup and I feel like I’m drowning….