I am not in love with my husband anymore. As if anyone has never heard that one right? I tell him I love him though and am trying to act as if I do because maybe the feelings will return. The thing is that I am in love with this man named Hazim who goes to my gym. I have seen him about 5 days a week for the last year and a half at 5:30 in the morning. I have never even spoken to him because I am petrified to…I have never ever felt this way about anyone. Some can call it lust, and that is fine but I know it is not. I don’t know how to leave my marriage and I certainly don’t know how to talk to htis man. There have been many times that I knew he would strick up the courage to speak to me but I practically bolt out the door.
How do I get to know Hazim. I don’t want another year to go by without knowing him.
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I suggest you to encourage him to break the ice. This way you’ll maybe get to know him and see if it’s all for real or only in your imagination. Why continue this torture every day ?
totally agree!
Let me tell you something, it’s when you lose a person that you realize.
So now you think that you don’t like your husband anymore and you’re maybe sure about it.
When you’ll lose him, you’ll understand what I am talking about.
Or, you can, I don’t know try in a way to test yourself, talk to him (not about the guy, just about your feelings), let him give you a lot of space… and judge for yourself.
It’s only my opinion.
K.O.W.
If you don’t have kids, I think it is perfectly OK for you to leave your marriage and move on with your life. Having children complicate things considerably, since you both have a responsibility to raise your children, so even if you divorced, he is never going to be out of your (and your children’s) life.
As people grow up and get older, they often change and sometimes the feelings you first had get lost in the shuffle. People change, there is no value judgement to be applied and and it is no one’s fault. Ultimately, your husband will be happier with someone who loves him.
As for the guy at the gym, I don’t see how you can profess love for someone you have never spoken to. I would be careful about that. And, I would sort things out with the husband first, before you go testing new waters. It’s the mature, respectful thing to do.
Illicit affairs end badly, always. You will get hurt and hurt people close to you. At the very least let your husband know you aren’t in love anymore and that you want to see other people. Treat him as you would wanted to be treated if the shoe were on the other foot.
Best of luck!
If you don’t love your husband anymore, please leave him before his feelings for you grow stronger. You’ll hurt him more down the road than you will if you tell him now. Leave him and let him find a woman that loves him back. Oh, and you do not love Hazim. You have no idea what love is.
T.A.
And do you have T.A. an idea of what love is?
6, I think I do, yes. And seeing a random person at the gym is not it.
T.A.
This is definitely not love seeing a random person at the gym. I agree with you.
I’m happy you know what love is.
6.
This world is full of wise guys like this TA. Who think they do really know something about anything, while others don’t. Who the Fuck are you to believe such thing?
I’d love to see you managing real life situations, just to notice how “wise” you act.
I bet you fail just like anyone else around here, who at least has the balls to confess…..
9, I never said I knew everything and I never said I was wise. I have just as many problems as you do. The only difference between you and I is that I really think about what I mean before I say it.
T.A.