I’m in a relationship but I’m in love with a different man. I cannot leave my boy friend fearing it would destroy him. He loves me and I do too… or I don’t anymore…or maybe I am just confused…or maybe I just don’t know what I want.. or do I? Why has things got to be complicated? He asked me to marry him in Jan and that was 2 years ago but he hasn’t put a ring on my finger. How long do I have to wait..I wonder always. I just feel like leaving everything and everyone behind and go somewhere where no one knows me and start a new life. Am I being selfish to think as such? I’ve been living and doing things for others all my life and now it’s time to live for myself… Am I still being selfish?? I have lots of unanswered questions in my head and it’s slowly eating me up… Sigh
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I know how you feel. My man says he loves me and loves to love me but to this day he hasnt taken me to meet his mother, daughters or family. I was so sure about him (now im having doubts) that i took him to meet all my family. We have been dating intimately for 2yrs now. Its sad. I dont know where i stand in his life or if i stand in it at all.
Both you and the first comment are talking about a “2 years” relationship as if it was forever. Take my advice (or not)… take your time… it gives you an idea about how things will go in the future. If you can stay with your man for 4, 5 or 6 years and still love him… that’s true love, that’s a mature relation, that’s the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. But if you already reached this state, where you’re not sure about your feelings, well, you have to re-think the whole situation; it can just a phase, yet, if you’re feeling this for a while now, it means you should take action: Confront him! Then move on!
We only have one life to live… let’s try to enjoy it!
I agree with 2. Two years in a relationship is not much. If by two years you’re having doubts, break it off. Don’t get into anything you don’t really want. Don’t stay with your boyfriend or girlfriend just because you don’t want to hurt them. For them to learn that you were with them but that you never loved them will hurt them so much more when they find out later, and the will. End it now, or fix it now.
T.A.