I wish that I could feel secure. I wish that I didn’t feel like a failure and like I am stupid all the time. My husband says he loves me but he doesn’t touch me. We haven’t had s** in one month. When I get undressed, he turns his head or walks out. He never looks at me with love. Nor desire. I hate it. Everyone else tells me I am pretty. I lost weight and am still taking care of myself. I am in school taking Information Technologies. I have a very high libido. I want to belong to someone. I want to freak my husband. But I feel so ugly. I feel rejected. I feel shamed. I am a brown woman. But, I swear I blush red when he rejects me repeatedly. Why doesn’t he want me? I am a good woman. I take care of his kids. He has 3 and I already had 3 of my own. He has killed my family’s joy. I have lost so much of myself. I have no confidence. Everything I try to do he knocks. Why do I stay? We have been together 11 years. Married for 6. Why has he changed? My father left me when I was 14. I was a Daddy’s Girl. Why didn’t HE love me? I try so hard to be right. Why don’t they love me? I just want to feel passion and joy. To have a light heart filled to overflow with love. But now, I am dying. I have nothing left to give. I feel no joy inside. Just shame.
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Why do i have a feeling that you are a newly married bride and that you have been always the center of attention! For a long term bride would never nag on a 1 month stop of *** for it becomes kind of a routine to stop for a couple of months or soo which is not at all healthy to the relationship but YES it happens.
As for your husband i really thin you should confront him with what you are feeling and ask him if it is you, something you have done or said, or if he is passing through some rough time and he is trying to avoid getting you into his trouble.
When most men have trouble at work they see nothing funny in life anymore and loose the joy of lots of things along with *** so trust me your best solution at hand is to be honest and tell him how you feel. Stop giving him or you excuses just be straight forward and most of all HONEST and Caring. Please try to show him that you are saying this to him for you care and not because you are trying to blame him.
Good luck!
stop blaming yourself because the problem is not you.
ask your husband if there’s something bothering him instead of jumping to conclusions that you’re not desirable or wanted… you did say you’re still pretty and takes care of your body…
maybe he has somebody new… but then I’ve been told millions of times that a wife can feel that when his husband is having an affair…
there are lots of possibilities for his behavior, if i were you, continue with your own interests, go out with friends, busy yourself…
tip: next time he’s ignoring you over TV, go to the bathroom, take a bath, wear your most fragrant perfume and flattering dress… if he asks you where you’re going tell him you’re running an errand or seeing friends for coffee… that would get his attention that he’s not giving you enough attention.
STOP DOING THIS TO YOUR SEL AND SIMPLY ASK HIM???