Why did you have to lie to me, man? I have been your buddy for over 9 years, and you were afraid to tell me you were gay? I walked in to see you kissing another guy and yeah I was shocked but I don’t hate you for it. What I am feeling right now is hurt because you lied. Don’t you know I have gay friends, dude? Haven’t I told you about them? I helped you through the death of your mother, set you up on dates with girls, even took you with me when I visited relatives in another state. I shared a lot with you only to have you be dishonest with me over something as petty as this. Now I wonder what else you’d lie about. I know I left you feeling hurt and scared about our friendship but man I have to deal with the fact that something made you lie to me before I can talk to you again – and I will. Just give me time. Am I a bad guy? Do I make you feel uncomfortable about who you are? Maybe I have been the problem, being too blind to see you for who you are.
Man, you know dishonesty is the one thing that makes me angry more than anything else and there is NO reason why you had to pretend to be straight for the years I have known you. I would have still been your buddy. I should talk to you but I just can’t right now. Soon.
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I am a woman with a very close gay male friend. You MUST call your friend to let him know he has your friendship. Even if you can’t face him right now, ease the pain he is feeling. It is actually fear more than anything and it’s wrong of you to let him feel that way no matter how betrayed you must feel at this moment.
My friend was terrified to come out to his straight friends because he so needed them in his life. He didn’t crave them sexually; he bonded with them just like you as a straight man likely have bonded with other straight men. You seem like a very open and caring man; please take it from someone who helped a friend come out that it is much worse having you find out the way you did; he probably wanted to tell you but couldn’t. Now you know – and if you truly are his friend, you don’t want him to wonder if you’ve abandoned him. Call him. Better still, go to his home. You don’t even have to talk about this – just go and do the things you normally would have. He hasn’t changed; he can now be himself with you. I bet you won’t see a difference.
just dont let him bleed on you!
Most gay people are very scared to come out to a friend, even if they know it’s fine. Its the common feeling of not being accepted and fearing that. You definitely shouldn’t be mad and call him right away.
#2 You are a cunt.
I hope you have called your friend and that all is well now.