My husband had an affair. We are still married but I have really bad trama over it. i regret taking him back. I’d rather be alone than worry about every move he makes. I no longer respect him. People here seem to yjink betrayal is a joke or just a s***** urge they just have to give in to. Cheating says volumes of the person cheating, I think anyhow. Cheating isn’t a joke especially when kids are involved. They are the ones that really suffer due to one persons selfishness. I’d rather he just left if he was unhappy. The thing is he didn’t act any different during affair then before or now. It’s over and it’s been over-I guess trying to work it out made me realize he the one that pissed on our marriage not me.
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He’s an ass and you deserve better.
I am going through the same thing. We are trying to work it out but I have that same feeling of – “If you were unhappy, why didn’t you just leave?” He says he didn’t want to hurt me, but what do you think cheating on me is? It’s the worst. We have kids, too. I feel for you. Hang in there.
My husband cheated on me 14 years ago and it took half of that time to regain my trust in him and for me to respect him again. We counseled for a while and that really helped open the lines of communication and we understand one another so much better now. I’m not saying that this is the cause of your husband’s ifidelity but communication was our biggest problem early on and I wonder how many others are experiencing the same. I also had to come to terms with some things with myself that were causing turbulence in our marriage and my husband did as well. It’s one big cycle that can snowball into things that destroy marriages. Don’t give up. Get help.
Make it even, tell him you are going out to find a man to fuck and don’ t listen to him, just walk out. The anxiety and pain he will feel will let him know how it felt to you. It’s only fair.