I regret it…I regret leaving my local sports team because I girl I had a crush on liked me back… I freaked out…I don’t know why….maybe because it was too good to be true… my friend convinced me to join the local football team with him and I did…so I met everyone there and made new friends guys and girls…and I met this girl that I like and started having a crush on…after about a month my friend talked with me in private and said dude! Pamela likes you! and she wants to be your girlfriend….I froze I couldn’t believe it…I don’t know what happened but I started freaking out and I just stopped going yo the club…7 years have passed and I haven’t seen her…but I still think about it…about her….I hate myself for doing what I did…and I always wonder “what if”…I am sure that she has moved on with her life….I don’t think she even remembers me if I saw her on the street…I have her as friends on facebook and I like to look through her pictures… I don’t know why but 7 years later I still regret it and haven’t moved on…
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Why don’t you send her a friendly message on Facebook? You might regret not doing it in another few years? Why take the risk? If she isn’t interested, she’ll not reply (which means you didn’t lose anything because she wasn’t talking to you anyway). If she is interested, then you have what you want. Take the chance.
T.A.
you have a good point T.A. but i am scared she might say no…I think I have a fear of rejection….which might explain why I’ve never had a gf…this relationship thing is killing me…even if everything else in my life goes great(work, university grades, friends,family…) not being in a relationship really makes me sad…if she rejects me I will be in pain and regret it…I am so confuse :/
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Nah, you just need to relax. If she says no, what do you lose? You go find an nice girl, start hitting on her, and then you ask her out. And if she says so, you find another one. What’s the problem? If you never try, you’ll ALWAYS be rejected. If you try, you MIGHT not be rejected. She’s not the only girl in the world. Just be friendly and gentle with her. Don’t think of her as a girl if that helps. Think of her as any random stranger. Just talk, get to know her, and work from there. It’s easy, man. It’s really easy. All your fear is just in your head.
T.A.
I have absolutely nothing to add, T.A. has been very clear.
I totally agree. I’m a girl, don’t worry she’ll answer 😉
I can even make a bet if you want.
And fear, is a very normal thing. Right now, I’m honestly very afraid because my boyfriend is weird… So, you’re not alone haha
Be strong. Have faith. (try)
K.O.W.
Oh man, blast from the past. Except I was the girl. He was perfect (great personality, driven, etc.). I went as far as my ego would take me….made his friend tell him I liked him, took up a class to be with him, asked him out to the movies, even told him outright that I liked him and he replied to say he felt the same way…but I could not take the final step and neither could he. He eventually even alluded to his fear of rejection too…many years later, after all the bells and chimes (you know, the sort that go off in your head when you are around the person you like :)) had faded for me. If he had asked me 7 years later, I’d have still said yes, even though it had gotten so much more complicated.
We’ve both moved on now. I struggled a lot to move on. I saw him struggle too. I think we are both happy now. The point is, you can stop all the heart pain and be happy right at the start, if you just ask! It’s sooo simple.
Nice #5! 😉
K.O.W.
thanks a lot for your help guys, but I decided to not do anything :/ because I am not like most guys…I am sensitive and I am scared of being rejected….anyway thanks again, you guys are awesome 🙂
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