1. Your current level of social skills. First off, your social skills can be improved. There are plenty of great resources out there on social skills with regards to dating. Check out The Art of Charm podcast. Second, realize that social skills also involve a lot of non-verbal aspects. Check out Joe Navarro’s books and videos on how everything from body language, to style of dress, to breathing will communicate who you are (as well as tips as how to improve those aspects of non-verbal communication).
2. Frame of mind. Perhaps you are assuming that this girl is “above you” in terms of status. Maybe you are assuming that this girl is “out of your league.” If that accurately describes your frame of mind then you need to change that. No one is “out of your league.” Learn to self-validate so that you no longer feel dependent on hoping a girl likes you. Women will likely find you more attractive when you no longer “need” their validation and acceptance. Scope out some resources on self-validation.
Lastly, don’t force any of the above lessons. Find ways to make the better points of the resources above congruent with who you are and the type of person you want to be. The point of those podcasts, books, etc. is to free you to be the best version of who you want to be. People with worse social skills than you have transformed themselves. So can you.
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2 issues are to be dealt with here:
1. Your current level of social skills. First off, your social skills can be improved. There are plenty of great resources out there on social skills with regards to dating. Check out The Art of Charm podcast. Second, realize that social skills also involve a lot of non-verbal aspects. Check out Joe Navarro’s books and videos on how everything from body language, to style of dress, to breathing will communicate who you are (as well as tips as how to improve those aspects of non-verbal communication).
2. Frame of mind. Perhaps you are assuming that this girl is “above you” in terms of status. Maybe you are assuming that this girl is “out of your league.” If that accurately describes your frame of mind then you need to change that. No one is “out of your league.” Learn to self-validate so that you no longer feel dependent on hoping a girl likes you. Women will likely find you more attractive when you no longer “need” their validation and acceptance. Scope out some resources on self-validation.
Lastly, don’t force any of the above lessons. Find ways to make the better points of the resources above congruent with who you are and the type of person you want to be. The point of those podcasts, books, etc. is to free you to be the best version of who you want to be. People with worse social skills than you have transformed themselves. So can you.
Good luck.