I had an affair with my wife’s married best friend for about a year. We probably fucked about 10 times with several of those occurring while my wife and her husband were passed out in the next room after a night of drinking. The most egregious thing that happened during his time, is I wound up in the back of my car with her on my wedding night. We were the last ones up after the after party and didn’t get back to my room until 6:30am.

I knew this was wrong the entire time, but lust took over. The sick part is that this degree of sin that I proved I was capable of scared me and actually deepened my commitment to my wife. 6 years and 3 kids later, I am still happily married to my wife. But I can never admit this to her. She knew something was up, so we’ve since stopped spending time with my affair and her husband… Which was very healthy overall. My affair has now been married for 7 years and has 2 kids. She called me once to let me know she’d confessed to her husband and they were going through a healing process. The guy probably wants to murder me, but I’ve had zero contact with him so I can’t be sure. She encouraged me to come clean… But I can’t. The risk is too great now and I have the strongest commitment to my marriage and kids. I wouldn’t dream of jeopardizing that now. I have to take this one to the grave. But I have to admit… Anonymous confession feels pretty good. Thank you.