I have two cousins. One is a stay at home mom who married up and has lots of time to keep herself fit and youthful. The other is obese, prematurely gray, has two sons that she’s raising on her own after her husband left her. She’s nice but kind of dumb and she works as a daycare teacher.

You think, “Well the first cousin toon care of herself and used her smarts to get ahead in life,” but there’s more to it than that. She was born prettier, more perfect, and her mother took to her. The second cousin was never supported by her mom, treated like an annoyance.

If you’re going to bother to follow through, full term on your pregnancy, make sure you fully love and support your children, even if they don’t fully meet your expectations.