I have a very nice, smart, sweet boyfriend who I have been with for over a year. I can certainly say I love him. But I still have these pesky feelings for my brother’s best friend that resurface every time I interact with him. This guy has been a crush of mine since elementary school–people have even teased that I am in love with him. This guy has never reciprocated my feelings, mostly because he is basically oblivious and just kind to everyone, which I respect.

My boyfriend is a very nice guy. I feel guilty that I can’t seem to flush these stupid feelings away, but I can’t help but feel like the only reason I started dating him was to rid of this stupid crushy feeling of mine, and even now just facing eye-to-eye with him makes me all fluttery, like I’m twelve. But I’m twenty. I should be more mature and just go for who loves me.