To answer a question here which I think is really okay to talk about, I think it depends on the context of your fantasy. Look fantasies– are fantasies. They could be kinks. It could be a source of coping mechanism, too (not a good one im not gonna lie) and in terms of trauma response– well it might anchor from your childhood or something happened recently. I don’t know if you could looked it up but try looking at the DSM-V? Trauma varies from people to people. A more qualified practicians such as uni counsellors could help. They could be a pain sometimes if you ask me because it might feel like its dragging but eventually they would either down for referral or most likely you are going to be the one tracking and initiating your visits but if you’re eager then maybe that fits for you. But the point their is the normalization of r*** as a means to love? There could be an underlying issue there. It’s disconcerting as it is an act of violence and especially if act on overtly. I suspect it could be a product of toxic masculinity, too – a serious and prevalent remnants of generational patriarchy. I am concern on that subject and I think much professional help would be needed. But seriously if its not that serious most people – especially Filipinos- do come undiagnosed. Hey, if spirituality could help why not? its basically psychology too – just different angle. So if you find something appropriate to you – please use it. however be wary since as a user myself (sounds magical but) it needs exploration and concrete understanding of concepts behind it. It’s both liberating and caging. Use it wisely.

That’s all I could offer for now. Everybody please get their much needed rest. mkay?