I’m coming to believe that my wife doesn’t love me any more. We barely talk. She shows no interest in my life outside of how it affects her. She is clearly annoyed by any interactions we are forced to have. It feels like we are awkward roommates who have s** every few months and then pretend it never happened.

I have brought my concerns up to her multiple times, and she responds by crying until I take it all back and admit to being the bad guy. I would be content with this faux-marriage, if not for one thing:

She wants to have a child.

I really really REALLY don’t want to bring a child into this loveless household, but I know that I don’t have a choice. When push comes to shove if I say no she will ask why, and if I explain why she will cry. After she cries, I will take it all back and check mate. She wins. Again.

She sees nothing wrong with our relationship, so I can’t leave without looking like a total jerk to all of our mutual acquaintances and family. Counseling only happens if there is a problem, and (according to her) everything is perfect. I’m miserable and I’m stuck here and there is nothing I can do about it. Worst of all, I feel like a horrible person for even having these thoughts. I wish I could live in a loveless marriage as happily as she seems to.