Please never consider having a kid until you have achieved what you wanted to achieve in life so that you won’t force your kid to work for your own dreams. And please go heal so that your kids won’t have to heal from you. I have lost my entire life to a parent who made me feel like I don’t even own my life and now that I’m an adult I don’t even recognize who I am anymore and I’m living a life that doesn’t represent me but represents my parent and their dreams. I never wanted my life to be like this, my parent is proud of me but every single night I lay my head on my bed I cry because I genuinely hate myself. You don’t know what’s ” best for your kid ” if the ” best ” is the scenario you wrote for them because you couldn’t achieve that when you were younger.
