Random parenting flashback

I prepared a slumber party for my middle child. I secretly felt like I had fallen off the wagon. I could feel the demon growing inside of me. She had been bound and chained for too long. She was free and she wanted to show her A**. Luckily, medication would mute her sometimes and keep her from going out asking a friend to please come dressed as the Doll of the Year…Saige. Wtf….really??? What happened to our generation? I remember just having cake and ice cream at parties…no theme, no party food, no games really, and definitely no party favors. I vividly remember sitting and watching my friends open their gifts and hoping that I would be able to stay long enough to play with their s***. I am not quite sure when and why things changed. Cards are no longer written in blank invitations. They have beautiful fonts, pictures, instructions, and rhymes. I know all of this because I am a former Birthdayzilla. Never did I do it to show up other mothers. Something inside of me drove my imagination to act a damn fool and go way beyond what was necessary.

So this week, as I prepared for the party, there was a constant internal struggle on whether the s*** was really necessary. Visions of the party popped into my head like I had partaken in a mushroom binge. I have a condition called “I like to make my s***”. “Could I build a stage in five days?” “No, wait…what about a photo booth?”. Could I make 6 doll sleeping bags in 5 days with no damn sewing machine? What about a table for the dolls they were asked to bring? Wouldn’t it be cute to find small party food for them? By the third day, I had visited 4 different stores. The irritation grew and finally I said “get your s*** together”. I threw tons of parties in the past and never once enjoyed them. I was so exhausted and drained from gluing, building, baking, and painting. I was never really present at these parties either. I was a robot. I had expectations, plans, an agenda, and a schedule. I didn’t get to hear the laughter. I didn’t see the smiles. I was glued to a camera trying to take pictures. They were never fun for me because I was not THERE…the birthdayzilla was. So, I politely told the beast to get the hell on and I planned a party for my sweet Farryn…..

Despite what you may be thinking, the decorations took less than 3 hours. Paper plates and plastic table cloths can do wonders. As I put up the decorations, I ignored Miss B telling me that “this party better be good”. I shocked the SBF by telling him the menu consisted of grilled hot dogs, chips, and Hawain Punch. Our local bakery, Emileighs, did a beautiful job on the cake. They did such a great job that Miss B decided to lick it when I was greeting one of the parents. I quickly fought back the urge to pop her with a rubber band and just smoothed the sides out. The games consisted of a photo booth and writing a wish on a piece of paper and attaching it to a balloon to release in the front yard. I bought 8 balloons. Funny how the balloons for the s*** bald fella and me popped before we got out the door. I guess you can call that f____g reality for you. Overall, Farryn was happy. She didn’t see a mother tired, exhausted, stressed with clinched teeth. She saw a mother playing and having fun this time.

My only “stuff up” consisted of eating 5 slices of the most delicious cake ever. Yes, I said 5!! I woke up early to get breakfast ready for the girls. I kept it simple cinnamon rolls and strawberries. I was feeling relaxed and sipped my coffee. As I opened the first can of dough, my stomach began to sound like waves crashing in the ocean. S***!!! The next two hours I spent in the bathroom sweating and cursing the SBF who could not stop laughing at the state I was in. I found the energy to text the parents telling them to take their time because “we were having so much fun!” The SBF finished breakfast for me and got the girls up 30 minutes before pick up time. I cursed myself for a night of over indulgence. WTH was I thinking, but that cake spoke to my soul. I am a sugar w****.

One mother showed up right on time. I apologized for not being ready. Dehydrated and delusional, I confessed that I had diarrhea all morning in front of everyone. By that time, I literally didn’t give a s***. She laughed thank goodness. The SBF stood in shock. I staggered back to bed and the doorbell rang again. I mustered up enough strength and answered the door. There stood two Jehovah’s Witnesses. Damnit…really? What a coincidence one of the ladies is my “kroger friend”. My “kroger friend” works at Kroger and felt we were close enough one time to tell me my haircut was ugly…B****! I admit I was getting ready to tell them that I couldn’t talk because I had the shits. Of course, I am surrounded by my daughters and their friends. Right when I was going to say “not today”….Miss B holds out her hands and yells “They are just black girls. They are not your mothers.” WTF did she just say???? Really???? I took the Watchtowers, gave them a weak smile, and slammed the door. In Miss B’s defense, she knows the mothers of all of the girls. Unfortunately, the easiest way for her to explain how she knew for sure these strangers were not coming to pick up our friends was by describing them by race.

Overall, the party was great. One little girl felt very special on her day and that was enough for me. I didn’t have to go out and spend a fortune. There was no big production. It was just right for her and where we are in our life right now. I will not be forced to enter rehab…in the words (RIP)…”No! No! No!”. For those mothers who are still in the stages of going all out, I applaud you and give you a “do you, boo!!” shout out. I think whether the party is simple or extravagant that we must remember it’s a celebration. Celebrations are suppose to be fun and it’s okay for the host to have fun too!!! Mom the f_____ on!!!