“She was upset that I said she is a good cook in my document ( referring to his ‘What does my heart desire?’ document)”, Mark 2013.
“She asked me if I didn’t like any thing about her and I said I liked her hair”, Mark 2013.
“Catherine is acting like a cornered animal”, Mark 2013.
“I don’t look forward to having s** with her, but I have to do it” , Mark 2013.
“She would make these candle light dinners, but they were just ordinary events (dinners) for me. She thought they were romantic [sarcasm]”, Mark 2013, Mark later claimed the dinners were “nice”, but not “romantic” for him.
“When I plan to visit you, Catherine can read it off my face because I look so happy”, Mark while in my arms, 2012, variant 2011.
“A gay man does not belong married to a straight woman”, BK.
“I don’t have to tell you that I love you. You can see it in my eyes. Yes, this is what I want and I don’t have to call it love”, Mark 2013.
“She wants me to put her picture on my desk at work, but I don’t want to. I don’t want to”, Mark 2013.
“She say that she wants to be loved like my father loved my mother. When she was old and failing he would still tell her ‘you are beautiful’. I could never feel that way about Catherine”, Mark 2013
“Catherine won’t let me love a man. She has drawn that line in the sand and can’t get past it”, Mark 2013.
“Can you believe that she asked me if I didn’t think she was the most beautiful woman in the world?!”, Mark 2012.
“She asked me if I didn’t like any thing about her and I said I liked her hair”, Mark 2013.
“These days, I have to say nice things about her looks so that she can gets the courage to find a man”, Mark 2013.
“She breaks things around the house when I tell her what I really want. So I have to keep my desires to myself”, Mark 2013.
“When I told her I wanted an open marriage, she became very angry”, Mark 2013.
“If I were to separate and live on my own I would only have something like 600 dollars a month for expenses. That would be difficult. I would not have money for food”, Mark 2013.
“I sold her the house for one dollar. So if I were to walk out from this marriage I would be left with nothing”, Mark 2013.
” I have to have s** with her, and I told her I do it because I love her. I want s** with men only. She knows that”, Mark 2013.
“ I have s** with her because she needs to have her needs taken care of; I don’t look forward to it, but I do it”, Mark 2013.
“ I love Catherine like a very good friend. She is my sister/lifemate/companion, and I want to spend my life with her; but she won’t agree to just being my friend. It is all or none for her”, Mark 2013.
“I would be so happy if she found a man and she just became my roommate, but every time I say that she gets very angry; so I can’t say it”, Mark 2013, 2012.
“She wants me to act like a possessive husband. If she found a man, I would so happy”, Mark 2013.
“I have to act ‘lovy dovy’ (with Catherine) these days”, Mark 2013.
“Imagine having to be ‘lovy dovy’ with someone you find so unattractive… She wants me to put her picture on my desk at work, but I don’t want to. I don’t want to”, Mark 2013.
“Can you believe that she asked me if I didn’t think she was the most beautiful woman in the world?!”, Mark 2012.
“She breaks things around the house when I tell her what I really want. So I have to keep my desires to myself”, Mark 2013.
“I don’t look forward to having s** with her, but I have to do it” , Mark 2013
“She doesn’t want to feel like my compromise”, Mark 2013.
“ I told her that I would put her picture on my desk only to calm her down. But I don’t like the thought”, Mark 2013.
“You are suggesting that I think of popcorn when I see her, but I can’t get past her looks. Don’t know anyone who could do that”, Mark 2013.
Mark quotes:
“You are suggesting that I think of popcorn when I see her, but I can’t get past her looks.”, Mark, 2013.
“I can’t tell her that I need a man to love. So I call it a special bond or male bonding. She will eventually know what I mean”, Mark 2013.
“S** with men feels extremely natural to me, with Catherine it feels like a chore”, Mark 2012, 2013.
“I won’t tell you how it is that I can have s** with Catherine, but it is not easy”, Mark early in 2012.
“I don’t look forward to having s** with Catherine, but she needs to have her needs taken care of”, Mark 2013.
“The reason I stay in the marriage is not only because of financial issues, Catherine is my sister and my companion… She is definitely not my ‘it’ , or my ‘popcorn love’ and will never be”, Mark 2013.
“I call her my soul mate; she is more of a sister/lifemate/companion. I would love for her to find a man to give her what she needs”, Mark 2013.
“I love her like a sister, but she doesn’t want to hear that. So I act like I love her in the way I can love a man”, Mark 2013.
“She is my lifemate and companion. But I lead a special bond with a man. When I speak of a special bond with a man I mean love, but I don’t put it that way. I have to play down the L word”, Mark 2013.
“I love Catherine, but she is not “it”, and she knows that. She can sense it”, Mark 2013.
“Catherine is a great companion and I like doing things with her. If she only accepted me as her roommate and let me be who I am !”, Mark 2013.
“She says that it would be too painful being my roommate. So I can’t ask her to be my roommate”, Mark 2013, variant in 2012.
“I want to have some private time to myself for thinking about men (on the cruise). She told me to keep that to myself and that I have no empathy”, Mark 2013.
“Imagine having to be ‘lovy dovy’ with someone you find so unattractive… She wants me to put her picture on my desk at work, but I don’t want to. I don’t want to”, Mark 2013.
“She asked me if I didn’t like any thing about her and I said I liked her hair”, Mark 2013.
“I told her that I would put her picture on my desk only to calm her down. But I don’t like the thought”, Mark 2013.
“I have to act loving with her these days. I don’t feel that way “, Mark 2013.
“I will be so nice with Catherine that she will agree to anything”, Mark 2013 (referring to how he would behave during cruise of 2013 to get her to accept him loving a man).
“These days, I have to say nice things about her looks so that she can gets the courage to find a man”, Mark 2013.
“She won’t let me stay overnight with a man, unless she has a man herself and she does the same. I hope she can find a man”, Mark 2013.
“I know she thinks she is unattractive. I don’t think there is a man out there that would want her. So I will have to stay with her “, Mark 2013.
“I have to agree with her that I will never love a man; so I do and call it male bonding, but I really mean love”, Mark 2013.
“I don’t think she can find a man out there that would like her; but you (me) say she is not unattractive”, Mark 2013, variants in 2012.
“Even after losing almost 50 pounds she still is not attractive, but she is not (as) repulsive looking”, Mark 2013.
“I have to have s** with her, and I told her I do it because I love her. I want s** with men only. She knows that”, Mark 2013.
“I have s** with her because she needs to have her needs taken care of; I don’t look forward to it, but I do it”, Mark 2013.
“I love Catherine like a very good friend. She is my sister/lifemate/companion, and I want to spend my life with her; but she won’t agree to just being my friend. It is all or none for her”, Mark 2013.
“I understand why Catherine want to have s** with a gay man. She is having her needs taken care of “, Mark 2013.
“I don’t look forward to spending romantic moments with Catherine, but I do it. She is physically unappealing. I can’t believe you think a man could find her attractive”, Mark 2013.
“She is not my ‘popcorn love’, and if she insists on being my ‘popcorn love’ I will use that as ground for divorce”, Mark 2013.
“I love Catherine as a sister but there is more to it; she is also a lifemate and companion. However, she doesn’t want to hear that”, Mark 2013.
“She wants me to act like a possessive husband. If she found a man, I would be so happy”, Mark 2013.
“Can you believe that she asked me if I didn’t think she was the most beautiful woman in the world?!”, Mark 2012.
“The first 5 years (of our marriage) were good. She looked like a boy”, Mark 2013, 2012. (Mark never implied he liked liked minors).
“I can be affectionate with her sometimes. But she is not it”, Mark 2013.
“I am romantic with her in my own way. She is not my it”, Mark 2013.
“She would make these candle light dinners, but they were just ordinary (nice) dinners (events) for me. She thought they were romantic (sarcasm)”, Mark 2013.
“I don’t look forward to having s** with her, but I have to do it”, Mark 2013.
“You say I am lying to Catherine and that I should be honest with her, but I love her. She is my companion. I have been with her for 29 years. If I told her how I feel she would have a breakdown…”, Mark 2013.
“She will know who I am one day. For now I will just say I need male bonding”, Mark 2013.
“She is my lifemate and companion. But I need a special bond with a man. When I speak of special bond with a man I mean love, but I don’t put it that way. I have to play down the L word”, Mark 2013.
“She told me she breaks things around the house because she knows I love the house”, Mark 2013.
“I want an open marriage with her, but she won’t even read the book I suggested she read”, Mark 2013.
“When I told her I wanted an open marriage, she became very angry; so I have to keep it to myself”, Mark 2013.
“We can help Catherine find a man. I agree with you now that she is not ugly and that there is a man out there for her”, Mark 2013.
“No I don’t d********** well because I learned to s*** (c***) in p*** shops as you think. I learned from watching p*** (videos) and practicing on sausages when I was a kid. All straight men do that”, Mark 2013.
“I think about c*** and a** all day”, Mark 2009, variants in 2012, and 2013.
” I always get my way. So Catherine will just have to get used to what I want”, Mark 2013.
“I wrote that letter telling you I didn’t want to see you in order to stop Catherine from blackmailing you. I just put down what she wanted me to say”, Mark 2012.
Letter sent to Mark when he claimed he “loves” Catherine (published on July 6, 2013)
It is hard for me to imagine any person that would ever want to be loved the way you love Cath if that person was a romantic lover.
“She is my life-mate and companion. But I need a special bond with a man. When I speak of special bond with a man I mean love, but I don’t put it that way. I have to play down the L word”, M 2013.
“Imagine having to be ‘lovy dovy’ with someone you find so unattractive… She wants me to put her picture on my desk at work, but I don’t want to…”, M 2013.
Concerning why you have been placed in your current situation and why you are choosing to string Catherine along and remaining with her.
1) Cath owns the house when you in your guilt trip sold it to her for a dollar and made a written promise to continuing payments of the mortgage in the event of a divorce.
2) If you were to leave Cath and live on your own you would have only about 600 bucks per month to live on.
3) You don’t like living by yourself. Cath cooks for you. Cath is also a great companion despite not being physically attractive to the gay man you are. You also feel extremely guilty leaving her.
4) You are afraid of living as a gay man, in part because you are 55 years old. You are also a deeply self-hating homosexual, a condition that prevails in homosexuals that foreclose on their s***** orientation and hide behind a marriage to a straight woman in futile attempt to become lovable to society.
5) You are hoping a man will come along that can relieve you of the the burden of having to act as Cath’s romantic lover.
So when Cath flexed her muscle and said either “me”, or friendship with Sl and divorce, your lack of power made you choose Cath even though you think she is “unattractive”, “physically repulsive”, and not your “it” and more like your sister, roommate, life-mate companion, something you have been forced into seldom voicing because you know Cath has delusions of being your romantic lover and will divorce you unless you playacted as such. You are lying to the wrong person M. So come clean and be honest. Yes you love her very much, but in the very special way that a homosexual can love a woman. It has nothing to do with romantic love or she being your “it”. It is something entirely different.
“You say it would be easy to find a man for her? Which dating services are we talking about?”, M 2013.
How do you love Cath? Let me quote some more:
“These days, I have to say nice things about her looks so that she can gets the courage to find a man”, M 2013.
“I would be so happy if she found a man and (we) just became (like) roommate, but every time I say that she gets very angry; so I can’t say it”, M 2013, 2012
“She is not my ‘popcorn love’, and if she insists on being my ‘popcorn love’ I will use that as ground for divorce”, M 2013.
“Can you believe that she asked me if I didn’t think she was the most beautiful woman in the world?!”, M 2012.
I conclude by saying that absolutely no one I can think of would want to be loved romantically in the way you love Cath. Let me also add that you love Cath very much and in that special way homosexuals can love women they marry.
I don’t need to elaborate further. Think you got the point; so stop acting.
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