Yeah thumbs down if you want to, no f****** problem, but it’s true.

It could be a whole bunch of s***, say I meet her. I think she’s kind of s*** in her ways. I think she’s pretty, she seems nice most of the time, and I think she likes me a bit too. But there’s a few things about her that I don’t like. Right off the bat. This is real s***. These things are what shes about as a person and how she views relatio ships. And it’s miles away from what I see as someone I would want to be around. Maybe it means I don’t trust her. Maybe she showed a second or 2 of her real personality and it wasn’t good.

^^^^^ that’s where it should end. I should be walking away right there. We’re incompatible as people. And that’s alright.

But if we stay in the above for a while, and then take it a step further and get together and then 2 weeks in, maybe its 8:00 pm one night and weird s*** has been happening since we took it that next level and this feeling comes over me that goes “well….. I dont like this feeling…. I don’t like where I see this is going…. I’m calling it…”

^^^^ that’s absolutely where it should be called. You should break it and separate yourself from that person right there. Logically. That’s it.

To let it go any further, especially if you both have huge differences, visions and paths, directions, aspirations ways of being and thinking, it’s completely unhealthy.

You can’t force change on someone. Even with manipulation of their heart is in one place or many other places, and you don’t like those places for one reason or another or many, you can say look fuxk you… it’s them or me, and that person can say “alright…” and they can try to stick to it, but what you can’t see is their heart is there. So they are not happy. Why do you want to be around a person who is forcing themselves to do what tou want and is ultimately unhappy, maybe Even a bit resentful because they can’t do things or be with people because you don’t like it.

And you should need to force yourself to be alright with these things and people. You are just incompatible and there is absolutely nothing you can ever do to change it. If you want something real and serious anyway, maybe you just want to f*** and never see each other again, and you’re not investing s***, whatever.

You wamt a healthy long term relationship you can let loose and invest in, it absolutely need to be real. You can’t force yourself to like things and peope though. You can change a lot of things but you can’t ever change what’s cool for you or cool for someone else. You can know where you were wrong , get a hold of yourself and try to change your behaviour and try to fix things that way, I’ve been there and done it and if its important to you, its not that hard but you can’t change what you believe. Your beliefs.