Hi, my name is Ronnie and I am polyamorous. Until recently, I have only been in two triad relationships. One worked out pretty well and it only ended because I was relocating and the other was not so good. Jealousy, not on my part, ruined the relationship and it was a hell in its own right. Currently, I’m being presented with an offer to join another one. The problem is, I barely know the couple in person. I’ve been speaking with the woman part of the relationship for almost five months and I really like her but I have always had trouble, I guess a lot of nervous anxiety, when it comes to men. I am bisexual or at least I appreciate the male body but something about it also sends my anxiety through the roof and it’s not because I don’t actually like men.

Anyway, this person asking me to join them has expressed that she likes fat men which is good because I am overweight and I’ve never known someone ‘skinny’ who wanted to be in a relationship with me. We know each other’s personalities and our conversation on phone has been sensational but I don’t know how to portray that I’m scared to end up in another relationship where I’m an outcast or third wheel because someone else is jealous. And she mentioned her current boyfriend does have a jealous streak. Do I run? Do I turn them down? Do I appreciate the fact that she likes me and I like her and just go through with it? What happens when her boyfriend sees us kissing or when we’re cuddling and he comes in? Gosh, I wish my heart would stop going over the what ifs.