I have a lovely husband and I know if loves me a lot but he is more like a brother. He is not interested in kissing or any form of intimacy. I have given up trying to discuss why and how to resolve it. I have a work colleague whose wife is also not interested. He often makes suggestive comments and I find myself getting excited and thinking what it would be like if we had time together. He has kissed me a few times and he has such soft lips and is such a good kisser but then I am wracked with guilt about his wife and my husband. I’ve had an ex cheat on me and it was awful. I wouldn’t want to inflict that no anyone.