My friend has depression. I manage to help the best I can, but she refuses to take any type of medication or go to a doctor about it.
Now, my friend is convinced that of the whole 2 serious relationships she’s been in, both are “The One” and even before she starts dating them, she plans out their future (her a famous actress, the guy doing whatever his dream is, 2 kids together, k**** s** all day every day, etc). She dated guy #1 when we were sophomores in high school and he was a freshman. They continued dating even though his father disapproved (she also made it a HUGE deal when he asked if they used condoms, including threatening to have her dad beat up his dad and involve the police). She continued dating him after he moved to Virginia (we’re on the west coast), even though he didn’t have reliable internet or phone access. The only reason they broke up? He found a girl he could see every day that WASN’T thousands of miles away.
Guy number #2 she met while they both worked at McDonald’s just a few months ago. They dated in secret for a bit because she was higher up on the food chain then him. His mother was abusive in the past, and she didn’t approve of her either, to the point where he couldn’t go out with friends because my friend might be there. Even though they only dated for almost 2 months, they both agreed that they couldn’t see themselves marrying and/or having children with anyone else, and that once he turned 18 in February, he’d be moving in with her. Eventually, the pressure from his mother and the inability to talk to her regularly caused him to break up with her.
Each time they broke up with her, she feel into a suicidal mood for weeks. I’ve talked her down from actually committing at LEAST 11 times. Yet she still refuses to get help. I’m 18 years old, and I’ve got depression too. Coupled with the fact that I’m now in a college 1400 miles away, I don’t have the time nor the energy to fight with her constantly about this. My mental health is swirling down the toilet with hers because she can’t get the idea she needs help through her thick skull. I’m seriously thinking of just cutting ties with her.