covert narcs will present terribly on purpose like dressing sloppy, mispronouncing words, false humility/self deprecating, smacking when they eat, oversharing, being obese, playing dumb to TEST YOU. ONE if they’re idealizing you, they’re also jealous of what they consider to be your perfection even if you in no way consider yourself or market yourself as perfect. TWO they’re going to give you their worst so they can label you as shallow and martyr themselves as misunderstood. THREE you BETTER correct them. The idea is to steal your praise and think themselves clever. If they have to be the BEST LOSER and that’s their trophy, they’ll do it.