I’m in an intimate relationship with my brother. We never did anything growing up and this started from a dare.
He lives out of town but was visiting, we were talking and he said he couldn’t get off from a bj. I told him I had never had a problem, and he said I wouldn’t.
We have always been competitive, everything always ended up as a contest and this was no different. We did and he did. We are very sober about what we do and as I said he lives out of town.
We do it with each other because we both really hate dating and aren’t really happy in conventional relationships. I like that he’s not here all the time and I don’t have a single concern that he is getting with someone else, I know if he does he will use protection, but he says he isn’t and I believe him.
We still have a sibling relationship, we just screw. I usually visit him because no family lives where he is. We talk openly about where we are going and we both agree that we like what we have and see no reason to change it.
Long term the plan is for me to move where he is but we both know that may change this whole thing my go away.
Each time we start down the road of intimacy there is a point where my mind says, do you want to do this? I think that is the thing with most people, it isn’t that the attraction is never there but how or whether to proceed.
Its the same as when you first get with someone, you choose whether to stop or to proceed. If you choose to let go your body takes over from there, when you drop that guard your body doesn’t seem to be all that picky about who the person is.
I have become very curious about family relationships I don’t mean where everybody is doing everybody but when it just presents itself like it did for us.
I am happier now than I have ever been in my adult life. He’s not jealous and it’s very freeing to be able to openly talk about being attracted to someone and not be penalized for it. People talk about their spouse being their best friend, my spouse wasn’t my best friend but I have that now. We have no secrets and it’s really nice to have someone you can literally tell anything to and not fear it will be weaponized, it is hard to give up.