I’ve been in a relationship for almost 6 years now. However, I have been in touch with my ex from 10 years ago. For the last 10 years, we’ve been talking to each other on and off. Although our talks are random topic and we both have no plans of coming back together, I don’t feel guilty about it because I know, for myself I am not cheating. He’s also in a relationship and he has plans on marrying his girl. But my realization is, I know my feelings for him is still there, it was never lost. We just decided not to be together because of many reasons. I don’t know about him, all I know is we talk and he doesn’t feel the same as he was the one who initiated the break up. We are friends with a past. I just can’t help but think,’if one thing could’ve been different, would we have rode the tides together’. I know what I felt for him was real and strong feelings. Fate was just our enemy.”

Reply Guy here. Relationships are multi faucet and more than just the person you are sleeping with. Due to the facts you had a relationship in the past, still have feelings for this guy, and you use him for emotional support Id consider that cheating. You have 1 foot in the door with the guy you been with for 6 years and you are trying to keep your foot in the other door with your ex from 10 years ago. That isn’t ok…

When you have this 1 foot in and 1 foot out the door mentality then you are never fully committed to any relationship you are currently in. And you start to make decisions based on fear rather than placing faith in your current partner. You aren’t being faithful as is. And if you continue to be like this then your current relationship will end up with him as an Ex as well.