My mother died last month and was cremated (per her wishes) and I received some of her cremains. I thought it would be comforting to have her ashes but they horrify me. It’s the bone fragments. After she was burned, they crushed her bones. They crushed what was left of her skull. I know that’s all part of cremation but I can’t stop picturing it happening—the crushing of my mother’s bones and skull. It makes me feel nauseous and I’m so f****** sad and lost and I miss my mom so much.