Some people will do anything, no matter how negative it is, let the chips fall where they may and they think they can come back later and rely on forgiveness. Whatever that means? What does it mean? Does it mean picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and moving on without retaliation BUT at the same time letting it go and not getting back into it ever again? A vow to never get mixed up in that person or situation again while at the same time not looking for blood out of the person? Revenge, or whatever? Personally, I think that’s forgiveness.
To some people it could mean picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and welcoming the offender back in with open arms.
Again, I think if it’s minor, my crush gave me the silent treatment for 3 months without an explanation, hurt my feelings bad enough I gave it back to her, while still believing she still likes me alot. So I give it back to her, and eventually she does come around again. See that’s minor. That can absolutely be gotten past.
Some things though, are so severe, they reveal the character of the person and that could on top of quite a few other things that could be considered severely negative character traits. Maybe the person was on thin ice BEFORE they pulled of a string of severely negative s*** which severely impacted the person effected. They were extremely toxic, and thinking about it, they always were. Maybe the relationship never should have happened on any level in the first place and the severely negative s*** that came AT THE END, the s*** that needs forgiving was a kick to the gut when the person was already down. What is forgiveness then? I think it’s the first explanation. Moving on, and that’s about it. No revenge, no nothing, just move on and concentrate on beneficial things in life. Work, school hobbies, better people, or may e just people more suited to the person. Nobody’s perfect, but some people are really really bad for each other.
You should think about the consequences of your actions and how they impact the people you want to keep in your life and act appropriately so you don’t lose them. Forgiveness? What is that exactly? I don’t think it’s something you do, it happens. Naturally. It’s not a choice.