I am a 32 year old woman, a wife (16 years) and a mother of 4. I have been sending a close family friend (20+ years my age) revealing photos for over 8 years.

The close friend and myself e-mailed as well as texed back and forth all the time…. My husband was working at a remote site in Prudhoe Bay Alaska, and he had been gone for over 5 weeks. It was his birthday and I had a Fashion/bouduare photo shoot and sent my hubby the photos as his gift. I was very excited but my husbands initial reply was, “how much did this cost me” severely hurting my feelings as much as it being a disappointment to me.

At times when my friend and I would text, I was not sure, but some replies had a very mild ‘flirting’ flare/tone to them. Not enough to question openly, yet a ‘tone’ but I didn’t think so at times and was almost ashamed for even thinking that of him.

So Being hurt and frustrated, I text my friend and ‘vented my hurt feelings and why they were hurt. His instant reply was, “send them, I’ll tell you what I think” and without hesitation (stupid on my part) I sent two of the twelve pictures in the set. One was me facing away from the camera, spread legged and silhouetted in an open door, by the sunset. Very artistic, and of course I was wearing only my husbands chaps, no bra, no p******…nothing except the chaps that he wears when riding his Harley. The second picture was again the same ‘pose’ yet I had made a quarter turn to my left, exposing a healthy amount of ‘side-b***’/breast. Leaving me with a mixture of regretting, anxiety laden, nervously uncomfortable sensations the remainder of the night.

The next morning I had a rather lengthy (not crude) e-mail from the friend, waiting on me with a critique of both pictures. Reading his words my face flushed red, at times it was uncomfortable, a bit awkward, often flattering, ego boosting and (sorry) e*****. Once the shock had slowly passed, I realized those were the words and the reaction I wanted my husband to have.

When I did e-mail him back…days later, I was at a loss for word, though I did read and re-read his message to me. I do remember telling him I couldn’t imagine him describing me like that. It was like he was describing this totally different person.

He asked about the other photos in the set….and I sent them, one at a time. Reading his thoughts and drinking in his words and reveling in the complements and flattering way he would describe….describe me.

We only do our ‘arrangement’ via e-mail. We both treat it as if it is a different world we never speak of it in person, in text and we have promised we never will.

I Have taken pictures and shown him from my earlobe to my perineum. Some pictures with my face clearly visible some vailed. He still complements me 8 years later and it fills a void in my life