To: I’ve been sitting in my room awake at night and have been listening to my father take a bath through the wall
Me: If he has, live with it. You are only human just like he is and you have your needs, just like he has his and if you play with your toy, at least you are not going to get pregnant from it, are you?
What you think he might have said is irrelevant and if he raises the issue with you, ask him what business it is with him, what you do to yourself – you don’t ask him about his s***** needs, so what gives him the right to question yours?
If you attack him from the outset, he will probably be quite surprised and you might gain his respect – if you let him walk all over you and shame you, then he probably will, but it changes nothing, because, at days end, while you live under his roof, you are bound by his house rules and vice versa, him you.
On the other hand, is your s** toy still in the bathroom and if it has gone, ask him for it back, see above – get some backbone and don’t be an easy pushover – nothing ventured, nothing gained – you might look in the rubbish bin too, however, if it is there, give it a good wash, afterwards, before reusing!!