I don’t event think enough to worry about what they say, but I do listen to them with what they want. Even if I don’t completely believe it or the lack of care for me. I take it for what she says.

My philosophy is say or do something. If you’re into her, you absolutely should try to get close. If you believe there is something, I’m not talking she gave you eye contact once, but sure, be straight forward. Get in there and if she says she would rather go this way, not yours, let her go. Back off, disappear and shut up. You keep your dignity, you don’t look like a clinging a**, but the most important thing is if it is as you believed, there was something, you need to let her miss you and stew on wondering if she let the good thing go. Or maybe not? But even still that’s the best way to be. Maybe, maybe not. You can’t stand there critiquing what she does and how with who and not think she won’t get sick of your face.

Let her know what’s up somehow or in a few ways, including being straight forward if you think there is something, but if she says nah, let her go. It works for me. I’ve done the opposite. You get to a point where you become a revolting germ, she wouldn’t have Nothing to do with you if you were the last man on earth. Never again. I learned from that without even trying. Not that I care about ruining that particular thing, but I won’t do it again where it’s more important. No expecting.