My best friend recently lost everything, her house, her car, her wife, most of her stuff. When she spoke to her parents about it they weren’t helpful and said that she “gets herself into these situations.” She didn’t take that well.

However, I’m starting to think that they’re right. She’s my best friend and I love her, but she makes reckless decisions regardless of the consequences and often breaks down due to the stress of those consequences and subsequently can’t handle them. I wish I could tell her this but I know she won’t hear me.

We’re supposed to be leaving the country together to live in Dominican Republic, but idk how to let her know that I don’t want to go anymore. It was an impulsive decision on both our parts, but we’ve been fighting a lot since we returned, and she has no plan. She said she had a plan, but then also offhandedly said “well, if it doesn’t work out I’ll just come back.” And that bugged me because she’s not leaving anything behind to leave the country, whereas I would be leaving a very good housing situation and an esteemed job to do this.

So that brought me to the point that her parents are at, just like, you don’t think things through, and then you act like you don’t care about consequences until they hit you. But when they do, all of a sudden bad things are happening because “that’s just your life” or “you have terrible luck.” I just wish she’d take the time to try and think about big decisions like this before acting impulsively because of escapist tendencies. It’s kind of how she ended up in this situation to begin with.