If you cheat then you are as low as it gets. There is no excuse. If you are unhappy then you try to fix it. If you can’t, then you do things the right way. You separate and then get a divorce. You don’t cheat behind somebody’s back and blame it on being unhappy. That’s you trying to excuse yourself for being a p************ and if you do this you are probably a narcissist. Cheaters never win. If you start a relationship with someone where you are cheaters, you will never have full trust. It will always be in the back of your mind that if they cheated with you then maybe they will cheat on you. Two cheaters who end up together will both spend the entire relationship knowing the other one is not trustworthy. You can try to spin it any way you want to try to justify it, but it will never be a truly respectable union. You both will always be nothing more than two lying cheaters who hurt innocent people because you have no morals.