My boyfriend ruined the surprise of our engagement and poorly planned everything. Aren’t men supposed to have rings for months or even years before they feel inclined to act????????? Why did I have to start the process why did I have to suggest going to the jewelry store to get sized why, three weeks before Christmas did he finally decide after 5.5 years of dating that he would buy a ring and plan to propose on Christmas Day????? The fucker didn’t plan for the fact that that item wouldn’t arrive on time for what he was planning and then I got to watch him open the abundance of gifts I bought for him while I sat there watching like a chump as he said that his got lost in the mail. Only to reveal while we were on our way to dinner that night of his plan to propose. I don’t understand why he can’t make decisions on his own sometimes it’s like I have to kick him in the a** for everything even small things like taking day trips to our favorite places. I’m tired of this already I’m tired of the excuses I’m tired of him saying he’ll stop smoking and never does I’m tired of being with someone who doesn’t want to be fully and completely honest with me and who doesn’t want to jump at the opportunity to marry me even after FIVE AND A HALF YEARS TOGETHER. I’m sad I’m really just so sad my fairy tail proposal has been ruined my Christmas was ruined by his terrible attitude the whole day about the gift not arriving and then by his pouting about having to wear a dress shirt to my parents house and dinner. This man needs to grow up and I don’t know how to help him do it he doesn’t have any good father figures in his life and no good influences from his friends who are all pot heads. I need a strong head of household who can take control and all I’ve seen him do is continue to put things off. He is a wonderful person and he is hard working but I’ve waited so long for this and when it finally came time for our moment to happen it was ruined by his poor planning, poor judgement and simply bad timing. What do I do?!