ACTUALLY, as a man who both been ghosted, but also has ghosted more than a few people throughout my entire life, I mean like 30+ people…

Yeah, sometimes the reason I want nothing more to do with people IS their fault. They are irritating, maybe I feel a lack of respect or caring out of them, maybe I didn’t feel they were on my side on a level I need to see or feel when it comes to an issue, whatever, the reason I stopped having anything to do with them and didn’t bother to acknowledge that I want absolutely nothing to do with them at this present time at least for the foreseeable future IS for what I think is a good reason. Maybe they are connected to something I want nothing to do with, it isn’t even personal, I just can’t have any connection to that, so I am just going to step back, and in fact completely avoid. I make the choice and I’m gone.

BUT the reason I do it, every time, and I have done it A LOT to both friends and family, when I think about it, I’m really f****** bad for it actually, the reason I “ghost” is because I don’t think having a talk about it laying it down in a conversation is worth the awkwardness of it. I also don’t think laying it all down really matters though. You don’t need to hear it. Will you believe it and take it serious anyway. By laying it down and having a conversation for it, leaves room for them to b**** to everyone they see about why? In my opinion, to me, it’s better if they just don’t know. The only fact they get and understand is that I’m not there and I have no interest in being there.

So as hard as it is sometimes if I get ghosted, that has only happened one time where I actually care do care and it hurt at the time but I realize my wanting some kind of closure was the idea of connecting in some way. The closure and whatever else didn’t matter to me, it was the idea of grabbing a hold of them after they managed to slip away. You know. I should found myself lucky that I have been ghosted far less than I have ghosted. It’s seriously been throughout my entire life. I don’t think I have ever actually said good bye to anyone ever. I just left and was very difficult to get a hold of. Impossible, I won’t have it even if they try.