love someone before you sleep with them–problem solved. you become attached to who you share your bed with. if you’re lying in bed with the wrong person, you chose wrong, and of course it fails/ends. if this is a desired woman, you can bet she hears a few times a day from all sorts of men ‘he’s a lucky man’, ‘he’s stupid’, ‘I would do that for you’ etc.-in this particular situation, and no amount of restricting her moves is going to change that, as she could see a man just about anywhere. . checking the mail for example. &if you meet someone’s emotional needs, there’s no reason why you should be thrown away by her. if this person has those qualities and has given herself to you passionately she likely has misplaced her emotions from sharing a bed before loving someone, and is merely acting out what would normally happen had the act been appropriately done in her schema, ‘loving obedience as you would to God’. &don’t share your bed with strangers, it causes emotional chaos. or don’t act surprised when emotions do break loose on you.